I agree with this. FtM here, born intersex and socialized as male at least at home starting from late childhood (upon my request). I have a sister and what you described as “no ceiling but no floor” is on par with my parents’ expectations. Ie: they expect me to achieve more than my sister, but don’t give a flying fuck about my depressive episodes and tell me to stop being a lil bitch and at best throw me some money for therapy. My sister, however, received unconditional support and affection for any small anxiety she had. The trade off for her was my parents not pushing her to challenge her limits or make a name for herself in her field, while they’ve been invested in my career since my mid-teens.
To the other points brought up, I’m certain that “male and female” privilege, along with racial or cishet privilege, all pale in comparison to class privilege. An upper class straight, cis white guy is going to have more in common with an upper class trans brown girl than some straight white trailer trash existing in middle America. Class privilege is often mistaken for male privilege because most of the “visible upper class” is male. Women in the upper class aren’t expected to work due to the special brand of wealthy female socialization. Consequently, one who is not expected to work, for whom work isn’t ever going to be necessary, naturally ends up not working and forfeiting presence in the spotlight of influence.
Men and women get opposite ends of the same shitty stick. Said stick doesn’t mf matter when compared to the massive privileges or disadvantages one’s class brings. Obsessing over race/gender/lgbt and whatever the fuck identity politics is an elitist ploy to keep the masses from seeing class at the core of the shithole they’re stuck in.