Imaging a situation.
There is a very mannish female, looks like a lumber jack pretty much but has a vagina. Zero Femininity, about the only reason you could ID them as a woman is if you saw her naked.
Now flip that around, Girlish looking male, looks like a fairly attractive girl, cant tell the difference except for seeing them naked.
Do you want the one that looks like a dude or the one that looks like a lady?
The common understanding of sexuality breaks in this situation. Cuz even if you bone the female, your fucking someone that looks like and acts like a dude which is a pretty gay thing to do.
What you seem to be into is the presentation of femininity, you wanna fuck people that look like girls and even if the fem boy has a dick they mostly look/act like a girl.
That or your into the idea of being emasculated, having the whole "masculine role" thing removed. But from your description that seem unlikely.